Selectively Juggling

What would your life be like without music? What would my life be like without music? Simply unimaginable! My life, my life’s journey has its own unique soundtrack. An eclectic mix of music, lyrics and sounds that have helped to meaningfully punctuate and contextualise my life, the joys, struggles, losses and triumphs. Music is like…

What are your favorite types of foods? Vietnamese, Japanese, Thai and Indian …. And my own Australian cuisine that marries so many wonderful cultures and flavours.

What’s your favourite word? Drum roll please …. My favourite word at present is AGENCY, that is personal or self Agency. I also use it together with self-efficacy. “Your agency is your ability to personally accomplish what you want in life. Agency can be viewed as having multiple components: opportunity, awareness, skill, resources, and intention”…

What are you doing this evening? Not too sure yet, firstly I need to get through the morning, then off to work. Perhaps I’ll fantasise what I’ll do tonight while either driving to or from work. One thing is for certain, I’ll be doing the cooking (like every night). Perhaps I should spice it up…

What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you? Truthfully? Overt or intense, and high levels of extroversion are a bit of a red-flag for me. Or more succinctly, those who have narcissistic tendencies driving their insatiable need for attention and control. Yes, I know many lovely extroverted personalities who are emotionally intelligent…

Describe your ideal week. No alarm clocks, no deadlines, no commuting and no work! A holiday away somewhere in nature where I can lose myself in nature walks, swimming, photography and writing. A week of not cooking for the family, not cleaning, not shopping … not having to manage other’s deadlines, priorities and needs. A…

Name the professional athletes you respect the most and why. Now if you were to ask my sports obsessed teenage son, with his savant like ability to recall 1000’s of sporting teams, athletes and events, you’d get a very different response. I however am clueless in comparison and as such will give a somewhat left…

How do you relax? The first crucial step entails engaging my mind in a state of “I really want or not to relax … let’s seek out either nature, space, quiet, music and/or water“ Once my mind is prepared to relax everything and anything is possible, and will follow. I adore the water, either simply…

If you had to give up one word that you use regularly, what would it be? Could have … Should have … Would have … I personally find these three rather innocuous words are way over-used. More importantly they tend to accompany a negative mindset, of obsessing over what could have, should have or would…

Are you holding a grudge? About? Grudge? No! However, after a childhood and young adulthood of narcissistic abuse, of being subjected to sustained and systematic gaslighting I needed to remove myself from my sister’s toxic overreach. This was made evident at my Dad’s funeral where her need for attention and control dwarfed everything and everyone,…