Selectively Juggling

Truthfully? Overt or intense, and high levels of extroversion are a bit of a red-flag for me. Or more succinctly, those who have narcissistic tendencies driving their insatiable need for attention and control. Yes, I know many lovely extroverted personalities who are emotionally intelligent and are definitely in no way, shape or form narcissistic. Im not referring to them, but to people who have narcissistic traits (usually overt in extroverts) and covert in more introverted personalities.

I abhor narcissistic behaviour, as I still bear the scars of their toxic abuse and gaslighting. In my professional life I see clients who also bear the emotional damage of narcissistic gaslighting and abuse.

I much rather being around ambiverted or introverted personalities. I believe there is a huge amount of misinformation about introversion, where people believe it relates to withdrawn, shy, reserved and insecure people. This is untrue, as I know many confident introverts (myself included). The trait we share is that of having much needed alone time (usually in nature) to replenish and recharge our emotional, sensory, physical and mental batteries.

High extroversion is a real turn off … narcissistic traits are monumental red flags. It’s hard to connect with someone with intensely high extroversion as they often just want to talk about themselves, there’s limited opportunity for real reciprocity of thought and energy. I find it easier to deal with high-extroversion within my personal life, it’s a bit harder to trapeze that tightrope within my work environment, amidst professionals who have a wonderfully talented ability to camouflage their narcissism. Yet, gaslighting is unmistakable regardless of environment.